Journal, Life-Saving Tips



A few days ago, I was unexpectedly invited to a high-profile party. In general, I find almost everything unpleasant about parties – the ear-damaging thump-thump of music, the smoke-and-alcohol fog, the stilted conversations and the late-late hours. But this time, as my wife Aditi and I dressed, it struck me: “You know why we are going? Our job is to bless everyone there.

The idea came with force and clarity and resonated for both of us. So as we drove, we sent blessings ahead to the party. When we reached, we silently, sincerely wished real joy on all those we could see. It wasn’t difficult because we  genuinely adored the host, and were fond of many of the guests. Bathed in an aura of blessing, we found ourselves easy and open, generous and unselfconscious. We saw God in many different forms and ended up having a smooth, beautiful time.

The next day, as we reflected on how unexpectedly perfect the night had been, I connected the dots. And I realized that for the last few years, the joy of blessing has grown almost unnoticed.

Today, I do it as often as I remember. On flights, I bless everyone on the plane as we take off. Before meetings, I bless those who are going to be there. After meditation, I play a little audio track which reminds me to dedicate the positive potential of this meditation. I even bless my blog posts before I publish so that they may reach those who need to read them.

This gradual love for blessing was triggered a few years ago after a conversation with my brother and mentor GD. When I was going through a dark spell of frustration at how life was not working out for me, he suggested as a solution: “Why don’t you try wishing for others what you want most in life?”

In those days, grappling with mental advaita gymnastics, I thought his suggestion was sentimental, feel-good foo-foo. But I instantly experienced its joy. Over time, as I heard more about it from GD, I saw the deep insight behind it.

For example, it is impossible for the mind to bless and judge others at the same time. To bless someone, you cannot vibrate with the lower frequencies of scarcity, fear or anger – you have to hold the energy of love and abundance.

The state of blessing is also close to our true nature. So, as you clean your inner load, the bedrock of quiet blessing begins to shine naturally (A sage, without saying a word, is a blessing to the planet). Not surprisingly, every ancient religion prescribes some form of blessing or prayer – it is the simplest way to connect with your true nature!

Initially, blessing seemed wiser use of intention than manipulating the universe into manifesting what I had to admit were conditioned egoic desires. Over time, the sheer joy of doing it caused it to spread to other parts of my life.

A few months later, GD recommended a little book, ‘The Gentle Art of Blessing’ by Pierre Pradervand (which I would also endorse unequivocally). “By blessing,” Pradervand says, “I mean wishing from the bottom of the heart, in total sincerity, the very best for those people – their complete fulfillment and complete happiness.” In his book, Pradervand suggests:

On awakening, bless this day…
On passing people in the street, on the bus, in places of work and play, bless them…
On meeting people and talking to them, bless them…
As you walk, bless the city…
P. S. And of course, above all, do not forget to bless the utterly beautiful person
you are.

Do try this if you feel inspired. Take a few minutes to bless others in whatever words work for you – the sincerity matters more than the phrasing. Picture them joyful and forgive them for any real or imagined wrongdoing; forgive yourself for the same. If the other is not ready to receive the blessing, Pradervand says, it stays in their aura until they are – but for you, the result is always instant and liberating. 

20 thoughts on “BLESS YOU!”

  1. So beautiful… Surprised that something so easy was missed by me. Blessing seems to encompass gratitude, forgiveness and appreciation. Didn’t realise it could be done so consistently. Thank you. This is very well timed…Bless you for sharing! Love

    1. “Blessing seems to encompass gratitude, forgiveness and appreciation…” So beautifully said. Wow – am I not lucky to have readers who take the blog to a higher level. Thank you! And bless you for sharing your blessings! It’s a gift that keeps growing and growing…

  2. Hi Aalif…I love your blog and have recommended it to others too 🙂 I got to know about GD through your blog and have also been to him for personal sessions 🙂 Thank you and keep up the good work 🙂

    1. Thank you so much Priya. I feel so happy to hear that new people have connected to GD! He has so much to share, and so little interest in promoting himself 🙂

  3. Aalif, Thank you for the remembrance. I feel like I have been doing this for some time in my life but there are some moments of forgetfulness. I was experiencing one of those todays and what amazed me is that I was led to your page after so many days!

    I like the word blessing though – never thought of it that way.
    Good one! 🙂
    God Bless you.

    1. Yes, blessing is a lovely word. My friend Sheri who blogs at TheOtherSideofUgly just reminded me of another word – benediction which is the same in essence. Keep blessing every day! It’s the best job in the world… 🙂

  4. Several weeks ago a write a post called Benedicere (I am Italian and though it means benediction it is the same in essence) where I whispered a blessing ~ a wish ~ for all humanity. This post has so inspired me to do the same again today. Thank you for this gentle reminder. I am so happy that you and your wife found the joy of blessing others. And look how you continue to do so.

    1. Just read it, and my eyes are still wet with tears… It was so beautifully written. At the risk of sounding cliched, you do write like someone not of this earth…

  5. love this post aalif, thank you for your loving heart and the blessings you give … i will use this as a teaching tonight with my meditation group 🙂

  6. 🙂 🙂 Another of your wisdom-snippets that I’m going to follow from now on. 🙂
    I’m so glad I got this message today.

  7. So Enlighting… Straight from the Heart… you have created the awarness that everybody has the power to Bless… & its so simple…One needs to Just Do it … “Rab Mehar Karey” !! GOD BLESS !!!

  8. I used to do this, when I was feeling ouvert, happy, & ,consequently, emotionally generous. For a while, my habbit dimmed down (a bit of emotional exhaustion) …and I’ve been missing the feeling lately. The feeling you spoke of: The liberating empowerment, the one that is acknowledged & welcome.
    Made me think that it is in our nature to be liberated & well, generous & solar. Because, as I’ve found out, once we stumble & open the door to that garden, we’ll never fully be contented to be cramped up in our cells again.
    Thank you for this post! Bless you, Mr Surti, sir. 🙂

    1. Welcome Dysa… one practice I sometimes do when I am feeling emotional exhaustion. Just go down the street or look out of the window and imagine hugging everyone passing by without preferences. It’s super invigorating! 🙂

  9. Aalif,
    I am looping back here after reading several days ago to say your blessing lifestyle 🙂 has lingered in my awareness. A reminder so welcome in my flow and blossoming right now – the wordless shift is a dialing up of perception that changes everything while we seemingly are still in the same spot. lovely sharing.

    1. Awesome! Do check out Pierre Pradervand’s book ‘The Gentle Art of Blessing’ too… mine is quite well-thumbed and marked up 🙂

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