Last week, I wrote a post called ‘Why Be Something When You Are Everything?’ about how attachment to our self-definitions can be the biggest obstacle to making the changes we want in our lives. We believe the temporary masks have become us, and we are terrified to take them off. The roles go beyond being an external social convenience, and become crystallized as an internal truth of who we are…
Later, GD emailed me a deeper insight into why finding joy is not about exchanging an old definition for a new one, and why no role can ultimately satisfy us.
“All self-definitions are restrictions and limitations.
Be careful of everything you add after the words ‘I am.’
Because that is how we define ourselves, crystallize ourselves, box ourselves.
Self-definition often turns into self restriction.
The only accurate self-definition is ‘I AM’.
That’s it – just I AM.
Everything you add after that is just a story…
a role you are playing in the moment.”
Lovely image used under Creative Commons from Kristine Campbell